How to Give The Best Blowjob

Tips for girls – by Susan

If there’s one skill that every man would like a woman to have it is definitely the ability to give a great blowjob. However some women make the mistake of thinking that all the work should be done by the man in the relationship.

BUT… if you want to have a great sex life, you have to remember that “you have to give to get”. That being said every women should pick up the techniques in bed that will give him the greatest amount of sexual pleasure.

So what exactly does it take to give a man great head?
Below is how you should go about giving a man great head which will lead him to have an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon 😉

Step 1: Find A Comfortable Position
Just like vaginal sex, there are plenty of positions that you can try while giving a BJ to your guy. You can have him lay down in bed, have him standing up or have him sink into a comfortable couch or armchair.

I personally enjoy him on the couch or chair. I like it because I can suck him for a bit then lay my head on his thigh and play with him. Sometimes I even take the chance to stimulate him anally (more on that in a later post). Although it only takes a few minutes of direct stimulation for a man to have an orgasm especially when you’re using your mouth, from this position you can keep him going for a loooong time.

Step 2: Start Slowly Licking Him
First and most importantly when you start giving him head be sure to use your tongue in one long, slow licking motion from the base of his penis all the way up. Do this on as many sides of penis as you can, then when you feel that he’s all worked up, that is the time that you can slowly take the shat into your mouth.

Step 3: Use Your Tongue, Mouth & Fingers
While taking his penis into your mouth, be sure that you don’t ignore the rest of his package. Use your tongue, mouth and fingers to stimulate the rest of his shaft.  Use your fingers to cover the part of the shaft which you cannot take into your mouth. Don’t forget to GENTLY massage his testicles or LIGHTLY pull on the scrotum (just keep in mind how you like your nipples/clit played with).
Show him that you’re really into it by staring into his eyes and watch his reaction.  It’s simple thing like this that lead to a mind-blowing orgasm that he’s not bound to forget anytime soon!

So there you go. Three easy steps to pleasure your man orally. If you want to learn more check out this amazing blowjob guide.

The worst way to receive a blowjob is for a man to actually feel your teeth on him – so keep your lips covered. The best way to prevent accidentally grazing his penis with your teeth is by relaxing your jaw. If you need to, cover your teeth with your lips.

Best Cunnilingus Techniques

Believe it or not cunnilingus is the best sexual activity to make a woman orgasm. More than 80 percent of women regularly achieve orgasm from cunnilingus with only 30 percent achieving one through sexual intercourse. It’s no wonder that many women prefer oral sex to penetration. If you want to make a woman scream with pleasure using these techniques will make her orgasm like crazy!

1) Playing with the Labia
While holding the two parts of her labia together with your lips, run your tongue between the inner and outer labia one side at a time. It’s not easy to master but your lady will definitely appreciate it.

2) Simple tongue technique
Since most of a woman’s nerve endings in her vagina are around the opening and within the first inch inside you need target these nerves with your tongue by inserting your tongue into her vagina. Gently move your tongue in and out as well as in circles around the inside of her opening. If done correctly you will cause her intense pleasure. Just remember it is a sensitive area so be gentle and keep your tongue RELAXED. A stiff tongue can actually detract from or ruin the experience.

3) “Flicking”
Spread the outer vaginal lips with your fingers and then with your tongue pointed (but not to stiff) flick it around her clitoris. You can also pleasure other areas of her vagina, but keep returning to her clitoris since it is the most sensitive point. Some women go crazy with passion, and others find it too intense. So just like before make sure to start out gently until you can determine how well she likes it. Watch her reactions to your actions and pay attention to whether those moans are pleasure or pain.

4) Clitoral Suck
Expose her clitoris and then give it a quick little suck; pull it into your mouth and let it go. Think of it like licking frosting or batter off of your finger. Do NOT use teeth or heavy suction when starting out. As she starts to become aroused insert your middle and index finger into her vagina find and stimulate her G Spot (if you’re not sure where it is, just ask her if what you’re doing feels good, she’ll definitely let you know if it doesn’t). When done correctly combining these will bring her to a very intense orgasm.

5) Holding the Clitoris
Take her clitoris into your mouth and gently suck it while running your tongue up and down. This technique may take a while to bring on an orgasm but combined with skillful finger action the wait will be worth it

6) Rolled Tongue
This will work best in the 69 position. Roll your tongue around her clitoris and slide it back-and-forth. In a small way it simulates a woman’s vagina around a man’s penis. It’s another simple but very effective process.

Using these techniques will make your woman scream with pleasure but it’s important to remember that none of these moves by themselves will bring your partner to orgasm. So mix them up and give her a great session. Based on her reaction may need to modify how you apply these techniques. For those who want to take their cunnilingus knowledge to the next level, below are two best techniques from popular sex guides.

Two Best Cunnilingus Techniques from Premium Guides

1) “Blended Orgasm”
This one uses your finger(s) on her G-Area and perineum/anus and your tongue on her clitoral area and labia. It’s from Learn2Lick program which is like an encyclopedia of oral sex. This one is also discussed in the female orgasm black book, but I like it better how Michele teaches it.

2) Jack Lawrence technique as described in OrgasmArts Videos Works phenomenal.
Btw, if you’re not interested in his course, at least watch his free video, he offers an awesome free guide for g spot stimulation.

A lot of men are still standoffish about giving oral sex so this will be well received, appreciated and reciprocated. As I stated before the vagina is delicate and so you will need to be gentle and practice to get it right BUT this is one chore that I’m sure no one will complain about.


Quick Guide To Female Ejaculation

You may have heard about Female ejaculation but until recently it has been dismissed as a myth but thankfully for us ladies it is a wonderful and very fulfilling fact. Female ejaculate is a fluid released from the G-spot area. It is usually clear, or milky and as thin as water. The secret to female ejaculation is G-spot stimulation to orgasm.

G-spot stimulation causes what is termed a “push out” orgasm. The area around, or “above” the fingers or penis seems to swell up or to contract toward the opening of her vagina. G-spot orgasms sometimes cause a huge amount of lubrication, more than even the most excited woman gets from conventional stimulation. It’s with this extra lubrication and the push-out orgasm combining that you get actual ejaculation.

Make sure that your partner reads this …The G–spot is a small mound of tissue, between a penny and quarter in size, inside the vagina. The best time to begin searching for the G-spot is when a woman is very aroused which is usually right before orgasm or after it, when this area swells. To locate the G-spot start with your partner lying on her back with you positioned between her spread legs.

Slide a finger inside her vagina, palm up. With your finger straight back (middle finger is best) curve it toward yourself as if you were gesturing to someone to “come here.” The raised textured area that you feel should be her G-spot. It’s easier to find it with two fingers but this may not be comfortable depending on how tight she is.

When you have your fingers on the right area, try gently pressing. The movement should be slow, rhythmic and hard. You’ll know when you find it…… she’ll respond by getting more excited. Since every woman is different you may need to experiment with different positions to find the best way to hit her G-spot.

Now ladies…..once you get to the point where you feel as though you’re going to have an orgasm start to push your PC muscles out (rather than clenching them in) to increase your chances of squirting or gushing. Women with well-toned PC muscles are more likely to ejaculate and generally have better orgasms overall which is another incentive for doing regular PC exercises.

To many women, the first time she ejaculates feels like she is letting her urine flow because it originates almost from the same area. However, it’s almost impossible to urinate while having an orgasm because the urethra temporarily closes up. You may want to place a towel underneath you during your first few attempts if it makes you feel more comfortable.

For some women, G-spot stimulation is more likely to result in orgasm over a period of weeks or months after first starting to experiment with it, so don’t worry if you don’t have a G-spot orgasm the first time as long as you’re having fun trying.

If you want to learn more about how to make your lover squirt be sure to watch this video from Jason Julius.


How to properly finger a girl

Of the many ways to make a woman orgasm, using your fingers is one of the easiest and can be enjoyable for both parties. As we know hand and finger stimulation of the vulva and clitoris is the most common method of masturbation among women. Unfortunately, not many men know how to pleasure their women by using their fingers. They don’t realize that there is more to it than just sticking your fingers inside her and moving them around. The most common misconception about fingering is that men assume the “in-out” action is most pleasurable.  In fact, the in-out motion of a finger can become more irritating than stimulating. The vaginal lips are pretty sensitive, and repeat friction begins to chafe.

The most pleasant sensation is derived from applying pressure to the vaginal walls, particularly the G-spot. This sexual stimulation is due to the many highly sensitive nerve endings in the G-spot. Using more than one finger may increase pleasure felt in some women as it stimulates the vaginal walls, which may also stimulate the G-spot as pressure increases and the vagina is filled.

Slowly slide your fingers between her lips explore a little bit to find your bearings.  If she gets aroused, you should be able to feel a rough, spongy spot on the roof of her vagina.  Push on it.  You should move your fingers in a “come here” type of motion.  Check your partner’s response to different pressures and adjust to what makes her react.

DO NOT bother moving your fingers in and out to simulate intercourse.  She will most likely be having a very pleasurable just by having her G-spot pressed.  Change the pace of the pressing and note her reaction.  Does she want it fast and hard or slow and easy?  If you can’t tell, ask her. Find a regular motion that she likes and repeat it.

To give her even more pleasure, place your thumb on her clitoris while you press her G-spot. Even just letting it rest there feels good. Don’t be afraid to use both hands. One can be playing with the clitoris while the other wanders to other areas, such as the breasts, lips or stomach.

Don’t have the misconception that it will take the same amount of time every time you play. You may get her there right away, or you might not. Just give her the time to get used to the different sensations. This is actually one of those times when the doing a job quickly is a bad thing.

Making a woman orgasm is every man’s dream. Unfortunately, not every man knows what buttons to touch to give her the ultimate orgasm. Just imagine being so sexually skilled that you can literally have any woman screaming with pleasure and exhausted from a string of continuous orgasms. I hope these tips will help you come closer to that goal. For more tips I suggest you watch this G-spot simulation video.

How To Tell If She’s Faking It

If you ask most guys they would say “I KNOW what she wants and I always deliver”. They would NEVER even entertain the thought that their wife or girlfriend is faking an orgasm? Why would they? They all think “That only happens in other people’s bedrooms!”

I asked my married and single friends about this and about 80% of men said that their partners have experienced an orgasm during their most recent sexual event but only 60% of women agreed. Unfortunately I have to agree with the ladies. Nothing is more disappointing than feeling great, getting ready to hit and then things die only leading to a faked orgasm. While it sucks for us at least we’re getting away with it and not bruising egos.

So….why do women fake orgasms?

In reality, aside from “Wham, Bam, Thank you Ma’am”, life gets in the way: stress, depression, anxiety, body image, performance anxiety (women get it too), sleep deprivation, feeling rushed while trying to keep up with your partner all interfere with orgasm. So sometimes women have to fake it.”

How to recognize she’s faking it

While many women can duplicate the characteristics of an orgasm, including the contractions of the vaginal muscles, it’s unlikely she can replicate the intensity and length that normally occurs, especially while needing to increase her breathing, shifting her body etc.

Most women know that if she’s going to fake it, there’s no need even trying to reproduce the real thing, when they can just make some simple noises like they’ve seen in a porno. It’s sad but putting on a small act like this is most likely to fool and please most men into thinking that they are doing everything right . In the end it’s usually the screamers that are most often the fakers.

Let’s face facts, women know that an orgasm doesn’t come out of nowhere. It needs to be cultivated like a good wine with the final moment being the “pop” of the bottle.

How to recognize the real thing

The best way to tell if a woman is faking it is to know how to recognize the real thing. The best way to go about this is take a night and have her get pleasured manually using just the tounge, fingers and some toys. The partner should use these and just watch for signs of arousal that become visible throughout the process of sexual response, particularly during the pre-orgasm phase.

So what are the signs that a woman is close to orgasm? Again, the odds are if he just observes everything will fall into place. All he needs to do is just take a moment to see if:

  • Her breathing is getting more intense and that she is “gasping” for a breath
  • Her body heat and heart rate are increasing
  • All of her muscles are starting to tighten (As she releases the sexual tension in everything from her vagina and sphincter to her arms, legs, neck, face and even her toes will bend and arch forward)

So what to do about it

As with most instances of a woman not getting satisfied it’s important to approach the subject delicately. Both to explain what needs to be done for her to achieve a real orgasm and also to avoid the bruised ego I mentioned before and the sulking that will ultimately occur on his part.

Try to work the info from this article into the conversation or have him read it. It might take a while but this would probably be a good springboard for you both to try and experience new things and definitely lead to an orgasm. Good luck ladies!

Have Him Read This Before He Heads South

Introduction: This is a post by our female follower. Enjoy it!

As women let’s face facts, as much as your man claims to be an expert when going down on you he can ALWAYS do a little bit better. Unless I grab the sheets and arch my back I’m not completely happy.

So I put together a short list that you can “gently” share with him. To avoid a bruised ego say that he makes you “feel good” but you could “FEEL GOOD” if he just tweeked a few things.
So here we go guys:

Ask her what she wants! We are all different and like it different ways. What worked for your last lady might not be on the list for your next. I like a tongue soft and light on my clit until I tell you to suck it! WE will let you know what feels good. Just ask!

We have something like 5 times the nerve endings as men do “down there.” So more pressure, more motion, etc., really isn’t more. It’s just distracting and/or painful. As a woman, the best thing I can say is, don’t just start going at it! It is uncomfortable and it helps if you set the mood first. Teasing and blowing really feels good. Let your mouth do the work, not your hands!

Just like BJs aren’t that great if we take your pants off and deep throat you off the bat, we like to be teased with the idea for a while, and get really, really aroused before you get started. It makes the orgasm THAT much harder.

I like a guy to ask me how I like my pussy licked so I can help him find that awesome combination that makes me squirt without worrying about hurting his feelings or making him think I don’t enjoy his moves. It takes a really great and confident lover to ask for feedback during hot sex. It makes me crazy!
Nothing is more erotic than being held open with gentle loving hands. It gives direct access to the clit and works so well. I melt every time! When his elbows are planted at shoulder width (my lover’s shoulders are quite wide) and he has me open and exposed, working away, there is no way I am able to get away.

Having had my pussy licked, sucked, eaten, and savored by men (and occasionally women) I can tell you that the best way to find out what she likes is to get her to play with herself. Follow her lead, and it will change each time. Sometimes my pussy wants it hard, really hard, and sometimes only the slightest feather touch will make me explode.

Keep a steady rhythm going, and keep your tongue relaxed! Pointed tongues are too harsh on the clit, and actually desensitize. Another thing to keep in mind is that just because she’s moaning louder doesn’t mean she suddenly wants you to start going faster, make crazy figure eights, or gnaw on it. It means she likes EXACTLY what you’ve been doing. When a guy is doing something
I really like, I’ll usually say, “Don’t stop,” which means, “Don’t stop exactly what you’re doing right now.”

I find that just the tip of my partner’s finger inserted in my pussy after he’s been eating me out for little while – barely moving, just sort of tickling the entrance – makes me go nuts. Pussy eating is a delicate matter, so don’t thrust your finger too vigorously. You’re just trying to gently tickle her into coming!

Stop and make her need it. Finger her now, slowly at first, and kiss her thighs. Start again by flicking her clit with your tongue, light pressure, then experiment with other pressure and movement. Everything on the clit feels good, but some moves feel GREAT! Play around with tongue pressure and fingering and ass fingering or ass tickling/licking (if she wants it).

There is nothing worse than a guy who finds a licking technique that the woman likes and then changes his speed or tongue position mid-lick because he is afraid she is getting bored. Really, your girl is just going to get frustrated and it is going to be harder to make her cum. If she acts as if she likes what you are doing – STICK WITH IT!!! Don’t change your technique because your guy friends tell you that it is best to try a bunch of tricks all in the same session. Just pay attention to her!

Enjoy it! We always get more pleasure if we feel that the guy is REALLY having fun. If I see that my boyfriend is doing it under pressure, I won’t enjoy it either.
So take this tips, use them and develop your own techniques to make your lady enjoy herself..

ps. Want more? Check out this G-spot simulation video.

Best way to give her clitoral orgasms

I have guys asking the question all the time, ‘which is the best way to give her clitoral orgasms?’
Unfortunately there is no one ‘magic way’ to do this, all women act differently to different types of clitoral stimulation and what works for one, will not work for someone else.

When answering the question: the best way to give her clitoral orgasms, my first piece of advice is to understand the clitoris. It is not just a small pea sized organ, it is in fact a very complex organ which is around 3.5” long and extends into the whole pelvic region, connected to the inner parts of the vagina and the fabled ‘g-spot’. This organ is filled with around 8000 nerve fibres and in each woman the pattern of these nerve fibres is different, very much like a finger print which helps to explain the varied response to clitoral stimulation.
Luckily though there are many different techniques which can be deployed to help turn clitoral stimulation into a powerful clitoral orgasm.

Tip 1 – Oral Stimulation
Now this might seem like an obvious tip but there are so many different techniques you can use whilst giving her head. Use the whole length of your tongue to lick over the entire area, use the tip of your tongue to flick over her clitoris, try different speeds and different amounts of pressure and you can gently use your teeth occasionally for extra sensation. Oral stimulation is considered one of the best ways to give her clitoral orgasms by many women.

lubeTip 2 – Lube Up
A little bit of lube will heighten all of the sensations in the clitoris and will help to reduce any friction. Always keep a bottle handy!

Tip 3 – The Squeeze
Although this technique does not involve direct clitoral stimulation, it is a very powerful technique which can produce some amazing results. Take the folds of skin which surround the clitoris and squeeze them together, not too tight but you do want to apply some pressure. Keeping the skin squeezed between your fingers, start to move your fingers up and down and from side to side.

Tip 4 – Feather Touch
Gently does it for this technique. With the side of your finger just toughing the side of the clitoris, gently start to rub your finger up and down in tiny little movements, no more that 2-3mm each way. This is a great way to get her wanting more but don’t give in yet, just keep going with the Feather Touch and it will drive her wild.

trojan vibratorTip 5 – Good Vibrations

Some women just need the power of a vibrator to help them achieve an orgasm.
So the best way to give her clitoral orgasms is to find what is right for her, try out all the different techniques, find out which ones work best, use lots of different techniques and plenty of lube and she will soon be on her way.

G Spot Video

Four Reasons Why a Man should go down on a Woman

In a major survey carried out, it was observed that most men shy away from giving oral pleasure to their female partners! While there have been many misconstrued notions like vaginal yeast causing throat cancer and the like, fact is none of it scientifically proven and are mere claims. Sexually Transmitted Diseases (or STDs) can even stem from stimulating the male penis if the male in question is infected. Shunning away from performing oral pleasure on a woman is thus unjustified, contrary to popular claims.

We will go a step further with this – listing out a few reasons why a man should in fact perform oral pleasure on their better half!

1. What you give is what you get: This reason will certainly make men sit up and take notice. There are woman who are against performing oral sex on a male, and there is a way around this problem – give her one! Woman are likely to give back what they get, it is elementary and if your chances of receiving one as a man seems low, keep the qualms aside and go down!

2. Make her feel in control: This is a hidden truth. Men like being in control of the action, so do woman. Yes, males with all their hormones are built to take control of the situation, letting her take control will make her feel extra special – thus sprucing up things in bed! And letting her call the shots once in a while is a sure shot way of turning up the heat. But how can one curtail or control this power given to her in controlling on bed action? Go down on her and see the charm work, she will certainly be swaying to your likes!

3. Enhanced Pleasure: This is again a notion misjudged by many. Individuals have contested the functional importance of the clitoris and have sidelined it by calling a vestigial aspect of orgasm. However, research shows otherwise. With over 8000 nerve endings, more concentrated that the male penis, the amount of stimulation achieved via the means of the clitoris is more than that through penetration. This doesn’t mean you can relegate penetration, it merely means you should add on the oral aspect to let her feel the highs!

4. Lubrication: Many females face the issue of having a dry vagina which can make sex a not so pleasurable experience for both the parties involved. A few studies have pointed towards an increase in vaginal lubrication by the means of oral stimulation. If you feel friction is playing spoilsport the next time you hit the bed with your partner, it’s certainly time you considered going down on her too!

Yes, men have apprehensions. Women do too, and that doesn’t stop them from giving males the requisite oral pleasure. It’s time the males pay back! And with the aforementioned four reasons, males now have all the more ammunition to go down, gunning for glory!

Little Sex Moves That Will Rock Your World

Little Sex Moves That Will Rock Your WorldSex is meant to be an exhilarating experience.

In fact, it is one of the most pleasurable activities you can ever take part in. However, let’s be honest, when you do the same thing time and time again it does become a little bit boring. However, it doesn’t need to be boring. In this article I am going to give you a couple of little tips that you can use rock your world. Surprise your man or woman with one of these sex moves and their mind will be blown.

There is nothing like a bit of pain mixed with pleasure. Whilst you are making love why not have a sneaky nibble on the ear of your partner? Trust me, they will absolutely love it and will be begging for more! This is probably one of the best tips that I can offer here. Don’t do it too often though, you do still want the pleasure to be at the forefront of their mind.

Why not watch your girl or guy pleasure themselves once in a while? Perhaps do it for one another. This is a fantastic sex move as there is no greater stimulation than not being able to do what you crave ever so badly.

If you are a woman have you ever tried pulling your man up a little whilst in the missionary position? If you do it just right he will be grinding against your clitoris, and we all know where that is going to lead! If you want to find out more about this particular position then do a little bit of research on the coital alignment technique. Do this perfectly and there will not be any other sex position you want to try, trust me.

Tease your partner. One of the biggest mistakes that men make is going in fast and hard on their woman. However you can try mixing it up a little. Control how deep you go, how hard you go and how fast you go. This is a great little trick and if you do it in a random order it will blow the mind of your partner, and yes, it will rock their world.

Did you know that blowing warm air on your partner can add to the pleasure and passion? During sex blow lightly on different parts of your partners body. The best places to aim for are the nipples, neck and wrists. It really does feel great and the first time you do it they will love you, a lot.

If you are a woman then why not try tightening your vagina around his penis as he slides in? The smile that lights up his face will give you thrills. You just know that he is enjoying it.

This is just a small smattering of sex moves that you can use today to blow the mind of your partner. Don’t use them all at once though, keep them coming for a number of months to come!

Sex secret known as the coital alignment technique

Sex secret known as the coital alignment techniqueWant to drive your woman to an intense orgasm every time that you make love? Then reading this article is perhaps one of the best decisions that you have ever made. Let me introduced you to the coital alignment technique.

This sex position, a variant of the popular missionary position is designed to provide deep clitoral stimulation during sex. The best part is, it is very easy to perform. Yes, the missionary is a ‘classic’ position. However once you put the coital alignment technique into practice she wouldn’t want you to do anything else again.

One of the key things to note about the coital alignment technique is that for many women this is the only way that they are going to be able to orgasm during sexual intercourse. Many women do orgasm during intercourse but normally that is down to them stimulating their clitoris with their fingers. If you use this technique there will be no need to do that.

The Coital Alignment Technique was created by a psychotherapist called Edward Eichel in 1988. The first time that the technique appeared in the media was in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy. Despite being discussed fairly often within this journal it has received very little attention outside of that. Therefore this almost perfect method for driving a woman to orgasm remains a secret to most of the world.

One of the benefits of this technique is that anybody is able to pull it off, no matter how flexible you are or even how old you are. That is because it is a simple variation on the missionary position. In fact, the Coital Alignment Technique was originally designed to be as simple to perform as possible. However, for a male it may take some getting used to as this technique isn’t about ‘thrusting’. Let’s take a little look at how it is performed.

To perform the Coital Alignment Technique you need to get into the missionary position.

Hopefully she will let him know when he is there! Once the couple is in the missionary position the male will gently slide himself up. He should stop when the base of his penis is pushing against the woman’s clitoris. It is worth noting at this point that you will not be able to achieve deep penetration, but that doesn’t matter since the whole point of this position is to provide stimulation for the woman’s clitoris.

The aim here is to not thrust in and out of the woman’s vagina. Instead the couple will rock back and forth whilst retaining pressure on the clitoris. This should arouse the woman quite quickly. When she is close to orgasm you can return to the standard missionary position and thrust as normal. She should orgasm pretty quickly and fairly often the male will do so as well.

As you can see, the coital alignment technique is going to be easy to perform. Remember though, this sex secret may take a while to get working perfectly, but once you do it will rock her world! Why not practice it tonight and give her the best sexual stimulation that she has ever experienced?